Research on mindfulness has shown that the average person has 12,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day, 95% are the same as yesterday but more staggering is 80% are negative. Therefore, based on this data we have on average 3.5 – 17.5 Million negative thoughts per year!! NO F’ING JOKE. Who wants to live like that?Read More
One of my favorite parables that I share frequently in workshops and meditation classes I teach is this…Read More
Today I want you to think of something you need help with. Big or small. And then ask someone to help you. Yep, you heard me. ASK. FOR. HELP.
I am notorious for not asking for help, for doing everything on my own, suffering through things just because I feel like I should be able to do everything on my own. Where the hell did I get that idea? Take it from me, this is a really crappy idea. Asking for help is a strength not a weakness.Read More
I remember when I was young my grandmothers, mother and my mother’s friends all going to get their “hair done”. They didn’t necessarily get a haircut but treated themselves to a blowout, as we say now, or getting it styled and set for the week. This usually involved curlers or and curling irons and a lot of hairspray! My mom didn’t do much for herself, but she did do this and now I know why.Read More
Do you feel guilty when you focus on self-care? When you actually put your needs in front of others? I used to for a long time and even when I heard the comparison of putting our oxogen mask on first while in a plane before others, I still didn’t put myself first. Until I had twins as a single mother.Read More
Letting go of perfectionism is a huge self-care hack.
Perfectionism can lead to anxiety, self-judgement, feelings of failure and worst of all, it sometimes stops us from beginning a new goal or taking a risk.Read More
This is what I did today. My kids didn’t have basketball practice early so I took the opportunity to sleep in and wow, did it feel good!Read More
Self love is the foundation of self-care. Louise Hay, who was an author and founder of Hay House Publishing, used to talk about the importance of learning to love oneself as a pre-requisite to attracting joy, wellness, happiness, abundance, etc. into one’s life.Read More
When there is a lot of stress, many fall into a cycle of deprivation of some sort. It could be emotional support (not asking for help), sleep, exercise, eating healthy, peace (i.e. worrying too much), companionship, fun etc. Focus on figuring out what you need now.Read More
I hate being moody. I get mad at myself whenever I am in a funk, not giving myself permission to feel sad, unmotivated, or just plain cranky. Pema Chodron, beloved Buddhist teacher and author, says “having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” Not giving myself the room to feel the whole breadth of emotions in life is not giving myself compassion. I’m pretty good at giving others compassion especially when they are having a rough time, but not myself.Read More