Self-care is a practice of attending to a wider set of criteria, including care of the mind, emotions, relationships, environment, time, and resources. This includes setting boundaries to protect your time, energy and emotional needs. Sometimes this means just saying no. When we do things that we don’t want to do or do them from a place of guilt or obligation, we become resentful. And when there is resentment, there is no room for compassion. Resentment creates stress in the body and mind which, as we know, leads to lots of health issues.
Self-Care Hack #26
Author Cheryl Richardson shares these tips for saying no:
1. Buy some time, don’t answer right away.
2. Do a gut check (on a scale of 1 – 10, how much do I really want to do this?)
3. Tell the truth directly – with grace and love. Don’t over explain yourself, don’t defend, and don’t leave the door open for negotiation. Example: “Thank you for your invitation. While I’m unable to accept, I wish you all the best with your organization (project, event, goal, etc.).”
When you are in a position of choosing yourself or something/something that you are having difficulty saying no to this of this great quote I heard once. “I’m not saying no to you, I’m saying yes to me.”