Self-Care: Ask for Help (#28SelfCareHacks)

Today I want you to think of something you need help with. Big or small. And then ask someone to help you. Yep, you heard me. ASK. FOR. HELP.

I am notorious for not asking for help, for doing everything on my own, suffering through things just because I feel like I should be able to do everything on my own. Where the hell did I get that idea? Take it from me, this is a really crappy idea. Asking for help is a strength not a weakness.

Last year I had a lot of really hard personal things happening and I just couldn’t handle it on my own. I asked for help even though I was embarrassed and felt like a failure. I asked for help from several people. I realized that people wanted to help me, that people generally really like to help others. Asking for help even strengthened some of my close relationships. The help I received was crucial to the survival of myself and my kids. I am forever grateful. This experience truly changed my life.

Asking for help is not weak, it’s smart. Hire people, barter with people, ask for a volunteer, ask a friend. You can always be reciprocal with helping those in your life at a time when you can. It’s takes a village with everything…not just parenting. Asking for help reduces stress, boosts your health, strengthens relationships, increases productivity, develops a growth mindset, increases gratitude, and could actually teach you something!