Cultivate an attitude of optimism. If you have a perspective that “life is hard,” “bad things always happen,” “nothing ever works out for me,” ask yourself how that is serving you. Remember, the law of attraction says “like attracts like” so if you are constantly thinking negatively, that is exactly what you are attracting
In 2001, I went on my first yoga retreat. It was only a weekend in Connecticut, not a week in an exotic destination, but it changed me forever. It showed me that I could really relax, learn new things, deepen my yoga practice, but most of all experience a unique experience with like-people who were also there to find respite from the usual busyness and possibly some clarity on life.
Self-care is a practice of paying attention to what you are doing and how you are being in life. It is taking care of yourself by attending to the wellness of your body, mind, and spirit. At the heart of self-care is your relationship and connection to self. It is understanding what you need to be your most constructive, effective, and authentic self. I believe it is essential to living healthy, wholeheartedly, and happy.
One of the lessons that I have integrated into my life from Yoga is being in inquiry. To stay curious and have a beginner’s mind continuously opens one up to new learning, different experiences, and a lot less resistance. I hate to say that I now have limited patience for those who think they know it all. Yoga has taught me that there is the potential for limitless learning — about life, about myself, about the world — which by the way changes EVERY DAMN DAY. How can anyone think that there isn’t something else to learn about one thing or everything for that matter.
Immediately when I moved to the Berkshire Mountains in Western Mass. last Spring I felt a change in my being. At first I couldn’t tell what it was. I wondered if it was just the stress subsiding from a challenging move, feeling more secure as I got my feet on the ground in a new job, or just the excitement of meeting new people and being in a new place. After a few months in this inquiry, I realized what it was. My physical, mental, and spiritual Self was being renewed, rejuvenated, and healed by the beautiful nature right out side my window!
Are you someone who says “I’m not a morning person"“? Well, you could be a morning person if you choose to be. I’m the first person to admit that I love to sleep in but I have learned that there are so many benefits of waking up early (yes, I mean with the sunrise) and starting my day at this time never fails to be a little bit magical.
Research on mindfulness has shown that the average person has 12,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day, 95% are the same as yesterday but more staggering is 80% are negative. Therefore, based on this data we have on average 3.5 – 17.5 Million negative thoughts per year!! NO F’ING JOKE. Who wants to live like that?
I remember when I was young my grandmothers, mother and my mother’s friends all going to get their “hair done”. They didn’t necessarily get a haircut but treated themselves to a blowout, as we say now, or getting it styled and set for the week. This usually involved curlers or and curling irons and a lot of hairspray! My mom didn’t do much for herself, but she did do this and now I know why.
Do you feel guilty when you focus on self-care? When you actually put your needs in front of others? I used to for a long time and even when I heard the comparison of putting our oxogen mask on first while in a plane before others, I still didn’t put myself first. Until I had twins as a single mother.